Oomis, TY for your lesson in moral relativism. So how far does one go with this nonsense? “
Avi, I am not talking about nonsense, I am speaking to the issue of how the parents of this girl feel. Right or wrong, it is a reality that this is a problem for these parents, and thus, also for the girl and the OP. Don’t shoot the messenger, for pointing out a hard truth. We may want to be more politically correct, and it is morally proper to NOT be racist, but the reality is that many parents feel exactly the way that this girl’s parents do.
I advocated for my close friend, who DID marry someone of another race. Her parents were violently opposed to the shidduch and her mother begged me to “talk some sense into her.” I told her that it was not my place nor would I be comfortable to shterr a shidduch; she was old enough to make up her own mind,and that the fellow was very nice and good to her. They also threw out the mixed race grandkids card. I understand that. B”H their grandkids are all gorgeous and made great shidduchim themselves, though they clearly are racially mixed. What is ideal is not the same thing as what is the metzius of frum life.
You cannot force people to change how they honestly feel about shidduchim that are outside their comfort zone, like it or not, right or wrong. Hopefully, after a couple gets married and kids DO come along, the parents can come to appreciate the marriage and the family that has been created from it.