Reply To: Happy Times Are Coming…

Syag:

Right on! To bring oneself to any sublime, lofty level is one thing. To demand it in someone else, or to justify someone else’s pain and suffering is wrong and can ?”? have bad repercussions. I’ve just read such a story, where one was ????? ???? of his friend’s loss, and thereby suffered greatly himself. A Tzaddik told him that by justifying someone else’s pain he brought forth a powerful ????? on himself. So yes, talking it over, discussing, comforting, consoling, sharing and feeling with the sufferer is commended. Expecting the he/she live and act according to your sublime levels attainments is wrong.

Just sayin’, but I didn’t read in your story that you told her of your hurt. Sometimes some people have to be told, yes, even the most obvious. This week’s Parsha talks about it specifically – ???? ????? ?? ????? ??? ??? ???? ???, according to some Meforshim it’s referring to sins between fellow Jews, to tell off one another verbally and not hold a grudge – ?? ???? ?? ???? ??????. To rebuke, reproach verbally, get it out, bring about an apology, closure, brings Shalom, peace.