My wife doesn’t let me do any of the regular chores like washing dishes and doing laundry. However, I do the sponga every week (without being asked) and its considerably tough. I agree with those saying that some chores are women’s jobs and some are men’s. Basically, chores that women are more comfortable doing, women should be doing lekatchila and vice-versa. In a sha’as hadchak, you should obviously lend a hand.
I think men’s jobs generally include taking out the garbage, fixing things, paying bills, and that’s aside for working really hard to be the bread winner of the family. Different situations obviously have different arrangements.