Here’s what I don’t understand- why is the BY/ charedi system building young men and women who are not equipt to withstand going out into the secular world. Unless you are going to be a rebbe, teacher or secretary, you will likely come upon goyim (OMG ***shock***) in your lifetime. In the hospital, in the grocery store on an airplane. Yes I agree- university isn’t for everyone, but why is the system built so that university is so demonized. If you are a strong person in your hashkafa, you go to university letachlis of getting the education needed to make a normal parnassa which is sustainable for this day and age, why is it so looked down upon. Wouldn’t you rather be producing strong children who can tackle the world no matter if they r more inside the bubble or less?
I go to secular university with tons of other frum frum girls. I always say how university has solidified me to be even frummer than when I can in. Why? Because the contrast is so drastic, and BH being very firm and strong in my Torah beliefs, seeing the shtus that goes on around me just makes shabbos that much more meaningful. And it makes the shiurim I go to that much more important.