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You Daven earnestly and Hashem listens. ??? ??? ??????? ????. Certainly there are certain things that aren’t good for you. Do you think Hashem will punish you for Davenning by giving you what isn’t good for you? Obviously, your Tefillah will be put away for another time and it won’t be granted. But this is not the case for most things. Most things you Daven for were simply waiting for you to Daven for them.
Where it comes into play is that you shouldn’t press on when you see it isn’t being granted. You can ask again and again but not by pushing. Chazal teach that we learn from ?????? that we can keep on asking. Yet still, they tell us not to press.
Now, most important of all, while the reason Hashem created the situation that we must ask to get is indeed to be able to connect to Him, to be eating from His table, the immediate reason we are asking is in order to get. The more you will be ??????? ???? the more you will see ???? ?’ ??? ??????.
People spend most of their Tefillos on those things of which Chazal say ??? ?????? ???? ??? ????? and then wonder why they don’t get answered. We should learn to be ???? ?????, to express what you need and why and how you will use it.
As I and many acquaintances who’ve paid attention have seen, Hashem listens to our Tefillos. Most requests from a child to his father can be met but not if it is either dangerous or too big. But even when it is too big of a request, a good enough child might be able to get his way.