Reply To: Girl giving the "yes" first in shidduchim

If all guys wouldn’t look into girls until the girls said yes then this whole problem would be reversed. Since boys are doing the sifting process they automatically have longer lists and automatically are going to be saying no more often. If the girls had to do research before it is suggested to a guy then the girls would be left with piles of resumes and the guys would feel like there aren’t enough girls to go around.