But, oomis, fny attributed it to “preserving the girl’s dignity”. Do you disagree or do you think that preserving the boy’s dignity is equally vital?”
I think that preserving ALL people’s dignity is important. Sometimes feelings will be hurt and it is unavoidable. But boys are just as apt as girls to feel bad when rejected, though they are trained from birth to hide their feelings better and girls are encouraged to let loose emotionally.
I also do not agree that this preserves the girl’s dignity, especially if she is fully aware that her name has been suggested to Boy X and he said no.