Any family which can’t handle keeping gebrokts has much bigger problems. “
I know you didn’t mean that the way it sounded. I have two grandkids who cannot eat nuts (the seeds are not shayach for Pesach), and one of them ALSO cannot be exposed even a little to eggs. So my first two Sedarim days will include charoses with no ground nuts, no cakes, kugels, or mousses (forget about hardboiled eggs for Shulchan Areich), or any other item for which I typically would need to include those items. I also have a daughter who cannot have gluten, so even if I COULD make a cake, it is safer for it it to be non-gebrochts, so we avoid cross-contamination issues. With only one or two exceptions (noted below), I avoid the use of gebrochts in our traditionally-gebrochts-eating household.
My wonderful, sweet son-in-law (father of the two allergic kids)who is worth a million brochos to me, only eats Shmurah matzah the entire Pesach, so when they come for any portion of yom tov, unless I feel like making EVERYTHING twice, I only use Shmurah mehl and farfel (and then I have to really be careful because of the gluten problem from my other daughter). I make phenomenal farfel, like a rice side dish, but it is somewhat labor intensive, so where I used to make it in both Shmurah and non-Shmurah forms (and would give them the leftover Shmurah farfel to take home with them), now I will most likely only do the Shmurah, because it is just too tiring to do both these days. BTW, the non-Shmurah tastes SUBSTANTIALLY better, and I am at a loss as to why machine Shmurah matzah does not look and taste exactly the same as non-Shmurah, if the only difference is in the supervision of the wheat from start to finish. And it DOES taste very different, more like whole wheat matzah than typical boxed matzah. But that’s a whole ‘nother thread…
Bottom line, we do what we have to do for Pesach. But no one should be critical of someone else who DOES eat gebrochts. We should be delighted that so many Jews the world over OBSERVE Pesach. Even Jews who are frei, have Seder dinners, and though not the ideal, it still shows the pintele Yid in all of us.