The Rav’s Daughter was discouraged from taking the job from her husbands Rav . The Rav in the US wanted his daughter to take the job and was disapointed she did not take it.
I cant say Hashem would be too proud if someone did something that people would frown upon in the name of torah like giving the section 8 rent money to the parents.
I am certain that Rabbis Kotler, Neuman, Shustal and Olshin would disagree.
🙁 And Yes I do expect frum people to behave above the law. Why do you thnk there are gedarim for things that arent assur.