Lesschumrahs, I find great truth in your words, too.
The bottom line for me, is TRUTH IN ADVERTISING is essential to anyone interested in the kollel life. Make intelligent decisions based on REAL knowledge of what to potentially expect. In worst case scenarios, there will never be any financial support from parents on either side. In best case scenarios, I believe there nonetheless really should NOT be, because the young couple will otherwise NEVER learn to stand on their own two feet, thus remaining dependent children and not real adults. And what will happen to the NEXT generation when THEY too, want to only sit and learn and be supported? They might be in for a rude shock. And that rude shock has caused many problems in Sholom Bayis for some couples.