Akuperma, your last line reminds me of this:
In Shir Hashirim 7:1, it says,???? ???? ???????, ???? ???? ????? ??”, “?? ???? ??????? ?????? ??????!”
The non-Jews see the pretty flags of the Tribes in the desert, and they say to us (see Rashi), “Shulamis (one who is complete in faith), return from following G-d! In exchange, we will appoint you governors and rulers. We will try to think of what greatness to give you.”
And we the Jews respond, “What greatness can you give me that will equal my greatness, or even the greatness of the circle of our camps in the desert?” (where each tribe and person was perfectly positioned to serve G-d to the best of their ability.)
The golden ring of the secular world, as you call it, has sadly led many Jews to compromise their Judaism in their search for “quality of life”. Seeing this, you can hardly blame any Jew for their reluctance to jump in.