Reply To: Superficial for shidduchim

@lior- There isnt one specific way how to do things and most things are not clear cut black and white,

@ flatbusher – I don’t have a problem seeing movies since it isn’t something that I feel breaks my connection with the one above.

To all – The things we do go deeper then just the physical such as wearing a hat doesn’t mean much, it is the connection I have while davening that is the key and the hat just adds weight to my head, ( get where I am going with this),

My recent drop to the left is due to this concept that in my yeshiva experience( working now) I found that the connection to has hem wasn’t being addressed, it was more based on the physical and not so much the spiritual, asides from dress code , what about people’s feelings or learning to accept others for being different.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of yeshivish people who I have the utmost respect for , they are kind,polite, spiritual, its just this behavior wasn’t taught it was more like figure it out for yourself. ( anyway thats enough ranting for me)