Flatbusher, while I am not disagreeing with you, I would like to make something clear. There is a lot of talk about Achdus lately. Certainly it is a worthy goal. However, acceptance of every Yid as a brother means accepting the person who holds within him a Yiddishe Neshama, a chelek — mi’Maal. This does not include acceptance or condoning of any behaviors or actions that are not in keeping with Taryag Mitzvos, or any beliefs that contain even a mashehu of kefira R”L. We have to love the person. We don’t get to decide that we now love whatever he’s thinking or doing. This mistaken notion of achdus has the potential to lead us down some very dangerous paths.
Apologies to Accountant for having digressed from your topic! As far as advertising who you are on a date- I can understand your wish to present yourself in a favorable light. All advertisements attempt that with the product they’re selling. But the advertisers also know that they’re doomed to failure, and sometimes even a lawsuit, if they present their product falsely. Respect the person you’re dating and yourself by honestly presenting what kind of a person you truly are, and what kind of a home you hope to build together.