bochur24:
* Bordering on Kefira
* Daass Tevunos
Say, a person takes a hammer and slams his toe. As a result he spends two weeks in the hospital in pain. He did it at work, so his employer fired him. Etc. etc. He suffered a lot.
Sorry, HaShem gave him a choice and gives most of us this choice every day. To absolve ourselves of responsibility, that may be Kefirah.
(Many many times people do suffer in a way that is not easily comprehensible. Hashem does have an exact cheshbon though)
If a person did not get the Mon at the door of his tent, he had to go out and collect it from a little further away. Was that bashert. Yes and no. It was bashert based upon his current madreiga. However, the tzadikim got their mon at their door. He did have an option of becoming a tzadik.
This is the exact opposite of “It is exactly ‘Kochi VeOtzem Yodi…’!!”. Everyone wanted the mon at their door. They DID have that option through doing what Hashem wanted.