Can someone please explain the significance of whtether the one you stand under the chuppa with is the one that was “announced 40 days before birth” basehert” etc.
Who really cares.
If both parties work at it they will imy”h have a wonderful marriage, if they don’t, they most likely won’t.
What difference does it make
especially since you, I, your family, your rov, or anyone else will never ever know what was said in the heavens.
WHY waste time and emotinaly energy on somehting completely out of your control???
As an aside, i’m always amused that people forget that that same gemara talks this house is for this person, this piece of land is for this person, in the same way that it talks about the daugther of this person for this man.
Why do people get so caught up with it?
Do you think that if you got it right you guranteed anything in life? do you think if you got it wrong you are assured of problems??
I just don’t get it