Rema. so you are saying perception isnt everything? I know many shidduchim turned down because of perception and not reality, earlier this wee a shidduch that I was involved with was turned down by a girls father because “if he was such a good bachur he wouldnt be learning in X, he would be learning in Y” (I purposely left out the names of the yeshivos since they are irrelevent – my point is it is perception, not that the bachur is learning, but WHERE is “learning”).
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