ChizukGedarim – each child can certainly discuss the issue with their own parents, to make sure that they are able to move forward with getting married. Furthermore, the couple can discuss during the engagement (a small modification) between themselves what their finances will look like and how they plan on going forward as a couple.
I believe that would solve your concern without affecting my main points, which is to remove the pressure of funding and financing from the shidduch scene, as well as the need to match up parents with similar financial abilities to support or worse, throwing all of the responsibilities onto the girl’s parents, thereby creating many more shidduchim.
P.S. As I have told others, I’m a Gavra@Work, not an @Gavra@work 🙂