“I’ve been to out of town places and find that the people there in general are so much more accepting and friendly.”
It’s a myth. People are the same people everywhere. It only stands out more in Borough Park or in Yerushalayim because you expect more.
The reason New York is the model for the world in terms of chesed organizations and is the address for just about every frum national tzadaka, is because the generosity of New York yiden as a tzibor cannot be matched anywhere.