On the other hand the mother (or parents) wanting to actually meet her doesn’t bother me as much.
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I have heard of a practice that I found strange, distasteful, and a little hard to believe, wherein the boy’s mother and the girl both show up at a prearranged location and don’t speak at all (!!!) but the boy’s mother gets to see how she looks.
I would never agree to anything of this nature.
Agree with both.