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I have heard of a practice that I found strange, distasteful, and a little hard to believe, wherein the boy’s mother and the girl both show up at a prearranged location and don’t speak at all (!!!) but the boy’s mother gets to see how she looks.

I would never agree to anything of this nature. And would drop the shidduch if it was suggested. What? They can’t act civilized and say hello to each other? And the boy’s mother wants to look at her (Why?) but has no interest in engaging her in any conversation?

(If I was the hypothetical girl I’d probably embarrass myself by flicking a glance in the matriarch’s direction and saying something like “the eagle flies at dawn” or “Winston was my dearest friend” then choking on a fit of giggles.)

I’m curious if anyone else has ever heard of this. Snopes, anyone?