mustangrider & Health
I felt bad for him also, he didn’t really have any guidance when it came to dating. He tried being a mentch about it and it backfired.
He asked me, without giving details, if it’s considered a broken engagement if she thought they were engaged but he didn’t (and if he has to tell shadchanim). I found out the details later.
Within the first few dates I would just tell the shadchan that I was no longer interested in continuing, past that I would let the shadchan know that I was no longer interested but give the girl a choice if she wants to end it over the phone or not.