I hear what you’re saying, oomis.
Seems to me you’re saying, “stay calm, talk a deep breath, get some sunshine, or have a cup of tea.”
Unfortunately, that’s just not the way it is with shidduchim.
I saw you were chastised (different thread) for calling shidduchim a “hot button issue.” Maybe the phrase you used is not exactly perfectly correct. But you didn’t see me taking issue with it. Shidduchim bring out the least calm aspect of many people’s characters. Not a good thing. Just how it is.