If the girl herself brought this up, I would gently tell her she has no real claim on him. And even if she did, i.e. they were nearly engaged, which was not the case here to our knowledge, she comes across as extremely insecure, petty (to not fahrgin him a short trip to Israel), and controlling. I would think it would raise some red flags for the BOY! There was nothing indecent about the boy going away for chanukah. The mom made a big deal out of nothing. If she was that worried about his character, why approve the shidduch, to begin with? If they are of the mindset that three to five dates confers some sort of serious commitment then surely they checked him out to death prior to the first date.
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