Feif,
I have no reason to believe you and frankly, I have no problem not believing you. Saying it’s my problem is just not the case.
Both you and zdad are making the same basic mistake, which is understandable seeing what your position is.
The is a huge difference between stigma being attached to divorce (that is is a terrible thing to happen, even when necessary) and attaching stigma to someone who has gone through a divorce.
If the two of you cannot fathom that, it is your own failing, and an indicator of the different outlooks.
Zdad,
Your latest comment about abuse and loshon hora is beyond childish and stupid.