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Someone very close to me married a guy whose parents were divorced. She always talks about how lucky she was that he was divorced- everyone was so nervous to marry the child of divorcees that he wasn’t snapped up before she came along.
He actually grew up with a lot of issues that came along with the divorce (such as a nonreligious parent, stepmom, etc) and, as he says, you can either get completely thrown off by that or make a special effort to overcome the setback that you grew up with. So he focused on finding healthy families to stay with and emulate, developed a good relationship with (all three of) his parents, and really worked on himself to become a really amazing person with the cutest family :).
This isn’t “oh, so he lived through a trying situation so naturally he’s some amazing guy”- he worked long and hard to get to where he is today, and unfortunately, some of his siblings haven’t gotten there yet. It isn’t either “oh, it’s really not a big deal to be (married to) a child of divorcees”- there’s a lot of politics and his wife does have some issues with the whole two mothers in law thing (it sounds like a Jewish joke…). The point is that you have to look at the quality of the potential spouse and the way that they work on themselves- and really, that applies whether their parents are divorced or not.