Terumas Hadeshen siman 218:
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And the Yam Shel Shlomo on the Gemara which the Terumas Hadeshen quotes, adds:
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Although he qualifies this:
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And then he further qualifies it:
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But his second qualification comes after he discusses hitting other people, so perhaps it was not meant in regards to a wife.
Regardless though, this is only talking about lehafrish m’issura.