PAA, excellent question. I haven’t denied, per se, the possibility that society, rather than individuals, are at fault. I just haven’t heard a valid complaint.
The context shidduchim101 put it into is wrong. How can we possibly agree with the anger expressed by someone who has a totally different value system regarding marriage!
I reject your notion that wrxare at fault for not teaching women Gemara, because there are other, competing values, and I think we’re correct.
I would be more than happy to consider a valid critique against “society”, but I haven’t yet heard one. I haven’t seen any specific examples of how our values incorrectly manifest themselves.