DY: Yes, sorry GAW.
I think that my conclusion (to what I admit was a wall of text) was that a lot of the issues that singles have are caused in some way by the family- and child-centric values and infrastructure of Judaism, which we can’t really do much about. All we can try to do is promote person-by-person awareness.
My personal crusade is to stop the use of the world “girl” above the age of (at MAXIMUM) 25 or graduated from college. Married or single. At least men have an age-neutral term (“guy”) to use- I’ve heard people tak about eighteen-year-old (married) “women” and thirty-five-year-old (single) “girls.”