Golfer, I think you’re being a bit too harsh on the poster who requested I remove the post. For the reasons I explained, I felt the need to post what I did, and I still think that way, but we mustn’t forget what singles (both men and women) are going through. I think it was a fair point and a reasonable request, even if I didn’t acquiesce (the moderator was willing to accommodate had I so decided).
(Addressing SA83 and others as well):
The “blame free” theory is undoubtedly true, and if there are other issues (and there most certainly are) that doesn’t in any way diminish the need to address the gap.
I think there is a lot of talking over each other’s heads going on here, based on different definitions of the “shidduch (crisis) [catastrophe]”.
There are two aspects to it.
So if someone wants to define the shidduch (crisis) [catastrophe] solely according to the areas in which we are, as a society or as individuals, to blame, he is ignoring a significant part of the issue.
Yes, only focusing on the gap also ignores a big part of the issue, but that’s a petty reason to shout down those who are addressing age gap.