Reply To: How to answer questions regarding a shidduch

writersoul:

“Girls don’t violate tznius on a whim, or because it looks fun- they want to look pretty, and that’s how they think they can do it. Misguided, maybe, but I highly doubt this girl is malicious in her dressing”

I don’t think that goes for every girl who dresses untzniusdik as there are many who do it B’davka. They want to rebel or whatever. However, for the girl I am talking about, I think ur right. I believe she just thinks it looks good. She’s very very thin so of course most things look great on her. Of course, I don’t know her as well as my daughter does, but I think she’s basically a good girl otherwise.

So I hear the arguments that it shouldn’t matter what the boy is looking for (I think I said this already in one of my other posts). The question is about HER and her level of tznius. Got that. Also if my daughter would give info that’s misleading, ie; that she is tsnuisdik, and the boy is not like that, it could be potentially a bad situation.

So now my question. If my daughter tells the truth in as nice a way as possible (ex; to ask what they define as tznius, etc etc), and if the girl finds out what she said, how does she deal with the fallout if the girl gets upset with her?