I dated a boy a bunch of times and had a very specific hesitation. Finally I decided I needed to speak to my rav that was out of town for 3 days.
I told the shadchan that I need 3 days until my rav is back in town.
The boy got hurt/upset that I was keeping him “on hold”. He said its not mentchlich to keep a shidduch mid-way on standstill.
When I told my hesitations to the rav he advised me to continue with the shidduch, but by this time the boy was no longer interested in me.
I was heartbroken and so was he as I heard later from his relative. That shidduch never happened. I took this whole saga very hard throughout my dating years. I thought this boy was for me. It wasn’t easy at that time.
“Gam Ze Ya’avor”