Short term reasons not to perm:
Perming hair, explained very simply, is a way of breaking the di-sulphide bonds in the hair and then recreating new ones in a way that keeps the hair in a new position, ie. in the shape of curls. The results may be what you wish for: permanently curly hair, however this does not mean that you hair will be perfect. The redox chemicals used on the hair during the process often weaken the hair, and other side effects may even include loss of hair.
It is understandable that you may want to change something about your appearance, but there is more than one way to look “nice”, and sometimes showing respect to yourself and appreciating the way that you are could effectively boost your self esteem and make you feel better about the way you look. Who am I to judge, but I have the notion that -especially if you are looking for a husband- you may find that many people, including men, will respect you and give you the attention that you want if you respect yourself and do not feel that you have to bend (or curl?) to social norms in order to feel valid.
Perhaps try to appreciate yourself for what you have and what you are good at. Improving externalities isn’t always bad, but there are other things out there too.
Bracha and Hatzlacha!