I agree with that, but despite not having the “right” to have obedient children, I have the obligation to try and be mechanech them to be obedient.
Of course. But should you teach them that at the expense of teaching good middos and to not be power hungry and petty, and to not get upset when people don’t get upset when people don’t bow to youw whims, and to not use the Torah as a tool for achieving your selfish desires?
Perhaps a little balance?
And I will tell you how to teach him to obey Hashem. You obey Hashem.