Oomis with all due respect (and i have much respect for you) you have never been an older single bochur you dont know the pain of such an individual and how they are slighted by society as a whole this is just one way which is done publicly and therefore can hurt even more, I don’t think the gabbaim are doing this maliciously but just the same it is a slight it is saying you are not quite a man thats how the man perecieves as well as the rest of the shul.
