Ivory
“If I may ask a personal question of a “working single”. Would you date a girl who is not thin?”
I think the point of your question is to compare a girl who is heavy to a boy who is working, meaning that each has a flaw that would make them second-class in shidduchim.
You are wrong. Assuming being heavy is a flaw (nothing personal, but it clearly is, whether you are a working guy or a learning guy), then that is a real flaw. A guy who is working has a “perceived flaw” by shallow girls who would rather be on government assistance than marry a guy with a chance to pay 4, 5, 6, etc… full tuitions. A real flaw and a perceived flaw are not comparable.
The reason it is a perceived flaw is because I’ve been in the major yeshivos, in the regular systems. Trust me that I know what I’m talking about when I say “perceived flaw” in that someone works. I’d much rather be a hard-working, productive person than be lazy. I am not talking about the real learners. I am talking about those who are officially in seder 8 hours a day and learn 3. That is a 37.5% learning rate (3/8). If someone has a couple of hours in his day and learns every night, that person is far more accomplished.
And according to most theories, a guy who is working and more influenced would seemingly have a harder time accepting a heavy girl. This is not true. No guy in general wants a heavy girl, no matter how yeshivish or not he is.