I’ll be glad to respond to each point in turn, but let me just answer the quickest one since I have a minute now. Elite and non-Elite are determined collectively, democratically, by those in the shidduch parsha. They vote with their dates (just so thats not misunderstood, its a cute way of saying that you cast a vote when you agree to a date). So Elite is not a judgement on my part, rather an objective result of a democratic process.
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