frumnotyeshivish: Why is it so difficult to believe that both parents are fully capable parents and that in many cases it could be an even or close to even choice? Such a scenario is very far from outlandish. There can be many cases where the child will do equally well with either parent. Why do you persist in insisting that in almost all cases there is one parent who will be more detrimental with having custody of the child compared to the other parent?
DY on the other hand is coming here and insisting it is the mother over the father that gets the benefit of an “assumption” that she is better and more fit as custodian. Despite asking him specifics as to why he believes it, other than giving a vague that’s how it’s in our generation and he knows this based on his “observation”, he hasn’t provided coherent specific reasons that a child is generally best in the custody of the mother. (DY: Sorry for not addressing this point directly to you; I assume that you have a valid reason that you chose not to respond to my last question to you.)