Leibdik Yankel and Lior: I don’t care if she’s being silly in throwing away the marriage. She doesn’t want to be married to this guy. He is forcing her to stay married to him. Ergo, he is forcing her to be married to someone she doesn’t want to be married to or to be single forever. It’s a very simple equation. The fact that you can’t see something wrong with that is beyond disturbing.
Booklearn: Not quite. If he gives the Get and she refuses it, they are still divorced. It was always Assur to be M’garesh Ba’al Korchah. People just didn’t care too often so he added a Cherem.
I would agree that in a case such as Barry’s, if it exists, it may not be wrong to withhold.