I think it was Calvin (friend of Hobbes, not the philosopher) who pointed out the irony of ads such as:
“Express yourself – Wear Jordache Jeans”
The nonconformist is as far from the individualist as is the conformist.
Anyway, most of the people that I know who complain about the need to conform in the frum community have no problem conforming to many other “communities”. They simply resent the burden of being required to follow certain rules.
News Flash: Halacha is a constant value, whether you wear a white dress shirt or a T-shirt, or, for that matter, no shirt at all.