Well, it’s pretty hard to change the rules later. And once she’s wearing that stuff for a while, his eye gets accustomed to it also & he doesn’t see what’s wrong with it. Whereas when they first got married he noticed more??? What I’m saying (like Sarah Schenirer) is that you have to start earlier.
The little kids tznius groups may be a nice idea, I am not sure, because it seems to me that too many people are promoting their own agenda (I recently got something in the mail, & if you think I am thinking about covering my sheitel because of that inspiring story, sorry….)
And with teenagers, well, it’s very hard for parents to say things because we are all scared of upsetting our kids. I once called a woman to ask if I should talk to my daughter about an outfit I did not like (not ossur but not aidel) & she said, “don’t say a word, because the minute she leaves your house she will wear whatever she wants”. And I basically decided to concentrate on having a positive relationship with her & keep my mouth shut even when it’s very hard.
Furthermore (I may be wrong about this) I think most older women have a bit more dignity. It’s the youngsters who are so busy following the styles & getting their clothing to fit ‘just so’ who are much more likely to wear the bad stuff.