So how is any of this a ‘totally separate entity FROM being a wife and mother?
You don’t see how parts of me (for example being an engineer) are totally seperate from being a wife and mother? I was going for my engineering degree before I met my husband. I was working as an engineer well before I had children. Being an engineer is a big part of who I am – it encompasses my logical, math oriented personality. It is a big reflection of who I am. Am I saying being an engineer is more impportant than keeping halacha? No way, but I never made that claim. You seem to be extrapolating based on what you think my views are, not on what I am saying.
What kind of role model is my husband? He is a warm, kind, wonderful man. He is a logical, smart, dedicated person (both in halacha, learning, davening, as well as to people). He has a variety of interests that have nothing to do with being a father or son. He also has no problem doing housework, cooking and tending to the children. My husband shows his children love, warmth and understanding. He can also show them how to build, install, take apart and do various “manly” power tool kind of things. Basically, he has many different aspects to his personality that don’t have anything to do with being a husband and father. Those traits and thoughts and opinions CARRY OVER into being a husband and father. I never realized people believed that one aspect defines who you are.
No, I don’t believe women are better than men. I don’t “browbeat my boys as mysoginists who only see women as objects.” My sons are 2 and 8 months LOL. I am preemptively teaching them to respect women so that they DON’T end up viewing women as objects.
Thank you MDD and GAW. I’m going to look into that.
LOL Wolf!
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