No one can point a finger at me. I go up for a few shabbosim to my in law’s bungalow
The OP can. Do you spend money on gas to go up? Or on a train or bus ticket? If so, the OP’s complaint to you is just as valid. The only difference in your case is the degree of spending — but the fact remains that the OP would probably tell you to give the money you would otherwise spend on gas/bus/train etc. to those who “have so many tzaros ?”
The Wolf