My Rebbeim explained that to make a Kiddush Hashem, you have to show that the Jews are different from everyone else. If you show people that you are different and do things in a different way, then people will respect you. It sounds like you’re doing the best you can.
Another opinion is that if you show them you are different, People take that as standoffish and rude. If you are in an office and work with lots of people, Showing that you are “Better than everyone else” is not a good way to get along with people especially in the workplace where you might need other workers to get the work done and everyone to succedd.
And I can tell you from personal experience its NOT a good idea for people to think you are standoffish , rude and better than them.