apushtayid- I completly agree. but dont you guys want peace with people who arent like you. I still live in the community I grew up in as I am not married but I have plently to do with the charedi community. you must hear how both communties speak of each other. its so sad.
im not suggesting you shrug off when someone is doing something wrong. im saying watch how you speak about them. watch how u feel about them. if your goig to end up wih negative views you will treat them negativly.
you think im able to tell my parents they are living sheker. no. chas veshalom I would never do that. you set by example. if you show that you love each jew but you hold certain beliefs very seriously people will want to be more like you. not if you harden your shell and keep yourself in a closed minded box and tell people they are sinning because hey simply never learned your side of the spectrum. is that heir fault? its just as much their fault is your fault for not learning their side of he spectrum.