Poster: if someone tells me that a shidduch they or someone they know went on didnt work out, i always say its one step closer to their basherte. If you feel you need to say something to this person, you can always tell them that B”H you found out this info now and that they are now one step coser to their bashert!
Syag Lchochma: Isnt popa-bar-abba female? Oh wait, he admitted that he was asking as if he was his wife, which makes him unavailable for your daughter anyway…May you share good news about your daughter soon, bshaah tovah um’tzlachas…
Torah613Torah and golfer: I agree to a certain extent that people shouldnt just throw 2 names together for a shidduch. However, have you never heard of someone being impressed by a girl’s smile and positiver personality, and then setting them up with a boy that they just met at a function who reminded you of this girl due to his pleasant personality? Believe it or not, many shidduchim happen this way.