Here’s my advice:
The tenor of this thread seems like you are looking for a place where you can learn much of the day, and that will have some sort of college situation. I don’t think that is what you should be looking for.
You should figure out what sort of college you want to go to. Do you have a BTL already and want to go to law school (usually a bad idea unless you are in the 99th percentile of LSAT scorers)? Do you want to go for accounting? Nursing? OT? MBA? PA?
Then, find a program that will work well for you. And then find a chavrusah to learn with at night or find a yeshiva in the area with a shiur you can go to if you can schedule your classes around it.
Meaning, you say you are an “older bachur”. I’m guessing you mean at least 26. So you should figure out what you want to do and do it. Most of the things you might want to do are really not going to work as a night program at this point, and you shouldn’t limit yourself to the few programs available for half day learning which are intended for people much younger than you who have much more time.
There are options out there for you. Truth is, I even once met a fellow from BMG who had then gone to Yale College at about your age. Nice fellow, if he’s reading this.
And don’t sweat the shidduchim–there’s plenty girls who will want a working BMG guy.