Hde, I agree with you. I used to resent all the cooking that I did for Yom Tov and especialy for Pesach and truth to tell I dreaded Pesach because of it. My feet were killing me from standing by the stove before Yom Tov and on Yom Tov for hours. Until I got smart and cut out a lot of stuff that took too long to prepare. I told my husband , if he wants the Pesach lukshen crepes-which takes a long time to cook fry all those leaves- he’ll have to do it himself.
Pesach is so much more than the food we eat and I wanted to enjoy it, not be stuck behind the stove.
Some people enjoy cooking and baking so I guess Yom Tov is a time for them to go all the way. There’s no reason to make it a pressure for the the rest of us though.