It doesn’t take a frog scientist to discern that OP is obviously female.
I agree totally with HaLeiVi; if she has a higher standard and would not mingle etc., she definitely should not do it now, when trying to construct her new home. Lowering standards is certainly not a segulah to invoke rachmei Shamaim.
To you baskah – I would say to involve yourself totally in chesed, for its sake. Try to put yourself in another’s matav when helping, assisting another. Try to be mekayim mitzvohs for their own sake, totally lshem shamayim. Be realistic, make proper hishtadlus, and then leave the rest to the our Great Creator up there. (you asked me, didn’t you)
B’sha’a Tova, b’mheira!!