Reply To: Vicarious Accomplishment of Women

“People talk about divorce as if it’s a bad thing because it is.

Some time’s it’s needed sadly.

It’s still a tragedy.

Sometimed operations are needed to remove a foot.

It is done to save a life.

It’s still a tragedy.”

Ben Levi,

Not in every case is it such a tragedy.

People who divorce because their spouse is abusive or something as bad as that, well, that’s like removing a cancer, not a limb. And they are very happy to be divorced.

Your cutting off a limb analogy is when things are not as bad as that and the couple still divorces.

“What we do from a “ruchniyus” perspective is what matters.”

A career is a tremendous outlet for ruchniyus. Probably the biggest one after learning torah.

Interjection,

“If someone feels ‘stuck’ in a certain lifestyle, that is their perception and not the reality because if they truly believed a different life was more appealing, they would follow it or else they are a wimp. There is no reason to feel bad for someone who lives in a community that you don’t respect, because if that person is living a certain life, most likely it is indicative of their beliefs. Bottom line is, you should not live in a community that you feel is offensive to you.

Have no fear. I am not stuck in a place I don’t like. But since I grew up with these hashkafos (more from my education than from my family), I still like to sort them out and hear what other people have to say. Also, it serves as a way for me to verify if people really DO think a certain way or if it is my biased perception. Sadly, I find that most of the time, yes, certain people think a certain way.