das Yochid ..
its called peoples opinions
I never realized that acc. to halacha you have to pay the shadchan.
quite frankly I was involved in someones shidduch recently and didnt realize how much work it is.
but I dont expect 1000.00 from each side. its nice. but thats not the reason why to make a shidduch. If its all about the cash – how do you know that the shadchan is doing everything to make sure that this potential marriage goes smoothly.- that e/t is ‘according to the books’